When you’re hopeful about things it’s just easier to make excuses for his behavior and focus on any shred of evidence that he likes you enough to take it to the next level. The only way you can tell if he’s serious or not is to be objective when it comes to your love life.
The thing is, he can like you but not want to be in a serious relationship with you. This is a tough skill to learn, but it’s very important and can save you from endless heartache.
If he has to cancel on you for some reason, he’ll feel really bad about it, apologize, and try to reschedule right away.
This isn’t just for the distant future, it’s for the near future as well.
If he’s always booking dates last minute, it means he doesn’t see you as a priority, doesn’t need to protect his time with you, and basically sees the relationship as a day-by-day thing and can end it at any time.
It’s terrible to have a guy go hot and cold because the hot feels so good and the cold is so devastating.
It can end up becoming a cycle that you get used to and can’t bring yourself to shut down because you’re always waiting for it to get better again …
This means not getting overly invested in a guy before he’s totally invested in you.