Many men who have never been violent become so for the first time during a divorce.
Violence includes damaging objects and possessions as well as hurting other people.
If there were major failings in the woman, why did he choose her and what about himself allowed him to stay?
Acceptance of his own role in this life calamity will help him to avoid problems with the next relationship.
Denial of the more frightening emotions-grief, fear, anxiety, etc., will only prolong the process of healing and recovery. Cultural expectations still tend to favor mothers in custody matters leaving many men without the time they want with their children.