When we see people in person, we process those signs and signals so quickly that we don’t realize that we’ve gone through a checklist. Your attitude literally bleeds into everything you do, in ways that you don’t think about.We just know “Yes, I’m attracted to that person” or “No, I’m not”. An amazing actor can pull this off for a little while. It affects how you talk to people, the way you perceive the world and how you interact with it. And like Binary Sunset, this is a theme that’s going to be recurring throughout your letter.
And while, yes, we are dealing with the consequences of the paradox of choice when it comes to dating, that’s something that affects men and women.
Which means – say it with me now: this isn’t an example of female privilege.
You weren’t required to see them again; you didn’t dig them and that was the end of that.
If you were to get a second date with someone and realize that you weren’t actually into them and decide not to see them again, then you would be dictating terms there, too. You can take all of five seconds to read through Buzzfeed listicles about women’s dating woes to realize that they’re dealing with the same bullshit you are.
that allows women to dictate every stage of the relationship: the second date, the pace of the relationship, initial sexual contact, and marriage, message and, for that matter, every gay or bi man you didn’t ask out.