"Show him that he won't dictate the terms of your relationship and that your life is not on hold for him," says Argov.To really work the strategy, end dates and phone calls first, and cryptically mention your other plans with little or no elaboration.
Jenny, 24, was able to pique her man's interest by playfully dodging his questions.
"Over dinner, Andy asked me if I was seeing other people.
I just said teasingly, 'Well, I certainly don't stay home alone.' I could see the intrigue was killing him." How everybody wins: Where there's secrecy, there's interest.
"Men are hunters, and they want to discover for themselves what makes you tick," says Fisher.
"It shows him that you're worth the wait and effort.