We might even leave an unhealthy relationship and still love our ex.
Meanwhile, some things are knowable: Healing from codependency and addiction require abstinence and the support of a Twelve Step program and/or psychotherapy.
Nonetheless, we stay and don’t heed our better judgment to leave.
Increasingly, we hide our worries and doubts and rely on sex, romance, and fantasy to sustain the relationship.
However, true love does require that we recognize our separateness and love our mate for who he or she truly is.
There’s always some idealization in a new relationship, but true love endures when that fades.
Initial attraction stirs up neurotransmitters and hormones that create the excitement of infatuation and a strong desire to be close and sexual with the person.