It seems like everyone was all about “travel” and “adventure.” Thrill-seeking was so prevalent, that a friend sent me an A/B tested response, which I dutifully began cut and pasting into every communication.
And, not just about the big things, like height and weight, but about more important things like not being a complete creep.
When I would tell women that I was writing an article about online dating, I was shocked at how many had experienced disturbing dates–men so brazenly sexual that I can’t even describe the anecdotes on this PG-13 blog.
The normally poor state of social forecasting is compounded by the fact that individuals, in general, are terrible at knowing what they want in a significant other.
Per the researchers,”people’s idiosyncratic self-reported preferences for certain characteristics in hypothetical romantic partners appear to be irrelevant to their romantic outcomes with specific potential partners they have actually met in person.” Another study found that College students who attended a speed dating event 10 days after evaluating potential study buddies online ended up being physically attracted, but not romantically, to the people they met in person who had their ideal traits.
The successful experiment illustrated an important flaw in online dating: lying works.